GIVE PEOPLE THEIR SPACE PART II
(I’m giving you your space, so I can work on my space.)
As I was saying…
Giving people their space allows them to deal with themselves. Haven’t you ever noticed that argumentative people thrive off of arguing? It’s as if they need a fight to continue in their dysfunction. And that’s exactly what it is, an improper way of functioning. To argue with you continually means that we don’t have to work on the solution. We just keep fighting about the problem. This is what I believe was at the essence of Martin Luther King’s non-violent movement. To fight with another race, would only slow our progress. But to love our enemies, forces them to search within and discover their own insecurities. I don’t need to call anyone a racist. That fact that they are racist is self- indicting.
Here’s another twist… Most people deceptively believe that they are masters of their space. Yet they continue, out of desperation and need, to enlist others from outside of their space. Usually, the people outside enter reluctantly. These are people who become your saboteurs. They become your Judas or the next person who will hurt you. But remember, you invited this person in. Out of your own desperation and lack of patience, you invited your pain. Or, even if they pushed their way in, you still let them in your space. You are responsible for your space. My son is very active, and sometimes while playing outside, he would injure himself. I would often say to him, regardless as to whether mommy or daddy is around, you are responsible for you. Now ultimately as the parent I exercise proper parental guidance, but if you have any children at all, you too are aware that parents cannot always protect their children from bumping their heads on the table, or getting into something they shouldn’t have. My goal for my son was to teach him what I am trying to convey to you, that we all must learn to be aware of our surroundings and to be careful, because ultimately we are responsible for our actions.
Ultimately, let your space be the space that you create. Your space doesn’t need anyone else, unless the person willingly joins your space. There must be mutual agreement for two people to occupy the same space. (REPEAT THAT TO YOURSELF!) You don’t force people or give ultimatums, regarding people entering or staying in your space. It is their choice. This is why in relationships; one can never hold anyone beyond his or her desire to stay. When they are ready to leave, they will leave. We must learn how to create a space that allows others their space. And if destiny so orders, we can learn to join our spaces, for a period of time, or forever. But, for whatever time, it will be mutual. Decree today, that you are going to GIVE PEOPLE THEIR SPACE, so that you can work on your space. Instead of spending so much time on “My Space”, the computer space, spend a little time in your inner space, and learn how to give people theirs. Over time you will see the freedom it brings to yourself and how it enables you to love others without expectations or demands. People will begin to love you correctly, not abusively, simply because you have allowed them to, not ordered them to. Well gotta go. Tell me if you want more. I have lots of this… PEACE!
(I’m giving you your space, so I can work on my space.)
As I was saying…
Giving people their space allows them to deal with themselves. Haven’t you ever noticed that argumentative people thrive off of arguing? It’s as if they need a fight to continue in their dysfunction. And that’s exactly what it is, an improper way of functioning. To argue with you continually means that we don’t have to work on the solution. We just keep fighting about the problem. This is what I believe was at the essence of Martin Luther King’s non-violent movement. To fight with another race, would only slow our progress. But to love our enemies, forces them to search within and discover their own insecurities. I don’t need to call anyone a racist. That fact that they are racist is self- indicting.
Here’s another twist… Most people deceptively believe that they are masters of their space. Yet they continue, out of desperation and need, to enlist others from outside of their space. Usually, the people outside enter reluctantly. These are people who become your saboteurs. They become your Judas or the next person who will hurt you. But remember, you invited this person in. Out of your own desperation and lack of patience, you invited your pain. Or, even if they pushed their way in, you still let them in your space. You are responsible for your space. My son is very active, and sometimes while playing outside, he would injure himself. I would often say to him, regardless as to whether mommy or daddy is around, you are responsible for you. Now ultimately as the parent I exercise proper parental guidance, but if you have any children at all, you too are aware that parents cannot always protect their children from bumping their heads on the table, or getting into something they shouldn’t have. My goal for my son was to teach him what I am trying to convey to you, that we all must learn to be aware of our surroundings and to be careful, because ultimately we are responsible for our actions.
Ultimately, let your space be the space that you create. Your space doesn’t need anyone else, unless the person willingly joins your space. There must be mutual agreement for two people to occupy the same space. (REPEAT THAT TO YOURSELF!) You don’t force people or give ultimatums, regarding people entering or staying in your space. It is their choice. This is why in relationships; one can never hold anyone beyond his or her desire to stay. When they are ready to leave, they will leave. We must learn how to create a space that allows others their space. And if destiny so orders, we can learn to join our spaces, for a period of time, or forever. But, for whatever time, it will be mutual. Decree today, that you are going to GIVE PEOPLE THEIR SPACE, so that you can work on your space. Instead of spending so much time on “My Space”, the computer space, spend a little time in your inner space, and learn how to give people theirs. Over time you will see the freedom it brings to yourself and how it enables you to love others without expectations or demands. People will begin to love you correctly, not abusively, simply because you have allowed them to, not ordered them to. Well gotta go. Tell me if you want more. I have lots of this… PEACE!
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